What’s my identity again?

What’s my identity again?

I recently read a blog post by Lucy who took part in a “describe yourself” challenge. The idea came from  The Notorious Mum Blog where Lisa, the author, had found it hilarious (or possibly soul destroying) that so many of her Facebook friends describe themselves as purely a “wife and a mama”. Yes they are amazing things to be, but, she argues, aren’t we all so much more than that? Do women lose their identity as soon as they become mums and wives? Don’t we all have other interests and experiences that make us all unique interesting individuals?

Lisa set a challenge to describe yourself without mentioning your life partner or children…. So, after thinking, oh Jebus I fall into this category big style, I thought I’d give it a go. Sometimes I worry I’ve lost my identity a bit since becoming a SAHM, and actually, it’s really hard to talk (or write) about myself without mentioning Matt or Miss Belle, because they are the centre of my world. But, lets give it a go…

So who am I?

My name’s Susie – well it’s not actually. My real name is Susannah but all my friends have been calling me Susie since I was about 15. It stuck at uni and then when I went on to study broadcast journalism, it was much easier to introduce myself in two syllables rather than three on the radio!

I’m not really sporty. I don’t really like exercise, but I like the way it makes you feel, so since I hit my twenties I’ve definitely done more exercise than I ever did at school. I found running (ok, jogging) really addictive, but I have all manner of problems with my ankles and flat feet which lead to a range of problems, so I’ve given it up. It was one of my proudest achievements to run a 10k race once. I’ve dabbled in yoga and relaxation and really enjoyed that. I must do that again soon…

I’m a qualified journalist. I used to read the news live on air. I’ve interviewed a range of politicians, celebrities and athletes. Then I moved to the dark side (PR) because I hated getting up early – seriously, those breakfast presenters on the news you watch or listen to…you have no idea how knackered they are. I could never ever do shift work again. Police/nurses/security guards, I take my hat off to you.

I love food. If it’s chocolate it has to be Galaxy. When I studied abroad in Canada in my second year of university, my Dad used to post me bars. It used to cost him more to post it, than it did to buy the chocolate!

What else, hmmm…This is hard. What else…

I play the piano, not very well now, but I used to. I’m not very good at arts or crafts, though my Dad is good at drawing. When I’m older I would love to learn ballroom dancing and start playing the piano again.

Finally, I love to travel, always preferably where there is sun and a cocktail to be had. And on that note, this is me.

Susie Hawes This Is Me Now About

To me, none of the above is ground breaking or extraordinary. Does it define me? I actually think the thing that defines me now IS being a mum (sorry Lisa!) and probably, what my old job was. But, actually, I feel ok about it now because blogging has given me something else for me again. It’s a good job the challenge wasn’t to describe myself without talking about current or past jobs either!

Who do you think you are?

Like the challenge? Can you tell people about yourself without mentioning your kids or partner (or your job)? Do you feel like you’ve lost your identity since having children? Do you care? Tell me below, or even better why don’t you give it a go and I’ll have a read.

Susie x

I’m linking up with:

3 Little ButtonsMy Random Musings


Diary of an imperfect mum
Hot Pink Wellingtons
The Pramshed



  1. Caroline
    23rd January 2017 / 7:27 pm

    Thats a really difficult one susie but ive got to say being a mum a wife and my new role as a blogger and also in my day job a dental nurse for the past 17 years are all part of who I am. Being a mum and wife has made me into the person I am today. But I know what you mean it hard to define yourself without mentioning the above. A great post susie X X

    • thisismenow
      25th January 2017 / 12:43 pm

      Thanks Caroline, I completely agree, being a mum and wife have shaped who I am massively. xx

  2. 24th January 2017 / 9:25 pm

    I think this post is blooming fantastic. I totally fall into the wife and mama brigade but this was a really nice exercise! I kind of feel like I know you better 🙂

    • thisismenow
      24th January 2017 / 9:26 pm

      Ah thanks Laura! I’m glad! Xx

  3. 25th January 2017 / 1:55 pm

    Brilliant post Susie! I can’t introduce myself without mentioning kids or work haha! I used to also play piano too but gave it up because I was a teen and was too busy trying to have fun with my friends. I’m still friends with those gals now but wished I had the commitment back then to stick with the piano playing 🙁

    I can only imagine what journalists go through. It must’ve been so draining and challenging. I can hardly wake up before 7am without pressing the snooze alarm a few times haha 🙂 #DreamTeam

    • thisismenow
      25th January 2017 / 1:57 pm

      Ah thanks, yes I also stopped mid teens but can still get by reading music just a lot more slowly than before! Thanks so much for reading x

  4. 25th January 2017 / 4:55 pm

    OH, this is a hard one for sure! I don’t know what I would say about myself. Well done on putting this together! =) #bloggerclubuk

  5. 26th January 2017 / 4:19 pm

    That really is such a tough challenge! I think that so many of us are defined by our jobs, and then by our role as Mum. I know that this is the reason I started blogging as it gave me a purpose and a voice and allowed me to still be, well, me at bit!? Lovely to read and learn a bit more about you Susie. Thank you for linking up with #DreamTeam x

  6. 27th January 2017 / 2:49 am

    I think you did really well! This is a difficult challenge when so much of your life is about being a mum or wife. Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime

  7. 28th January 2017 / 8:22 am

    Inspired to blog about me and who I am beyond being a mum. Loved reading this xx #fortheloveofBLOG

    • thisismenow
      28th January 2017 / 9:22 am

      Oh thanks so much. Yes do it, that’s how I felt after reading Lucy’s post. I found it hard! Xx

  8. Lucy | Leaning In
    28th January 2017 / 11:27 am

    I love it! I’m the same with the exercise/running. xx

  9. 29th January 2017 / 7:18 pm

    I think this challenge is so hard, but I’m with you – I think it’s ok to feel that being a mum is the biggest part of your life as long as you can talk about other interests too. I used to love running too but I have to admit I’ve fallen off the wagon in the last year and a half. I’m hoping to pick it back up again in the later half of this year. I’m also a huge lover of galaxy chocolate too (explains why I need to run!) – totally worth the postage cost for your Dad, how lovely is he? Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  10. 30th January 2017 / 3:24 pm

    I do think that it is ok to describe yourself as wife and mother if that is what you want, as with anything else it is each to their own, I love to say blogger now because it makes me proud, but nothing more than saying mother does x #sharingthebloglove

    • thisismenow
      30th January 2017 / 3:51 pm

      Absolutely, I’m with you on that one. I recently wrote a post saying how I’m no longer just mummy but a blogger. It really helps parents have another sense of self I’ve found. Thanks for reading xx

  11. 2nd February 2017 / 11:49 am

    This is good to challenge yourself to as If I take away girlfriend, mother, my role at work and then blogger there is very little time to remember what is me…what I like. I am all of those things they make up who I am but are not all I am. Mmm Galaxy chocolate. Lovely post about you my darling xx #fortheloveofBLOG

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