On biting and being ill

On biting and being ill

I started writing this last night but was so poorly I couldn’t finish it.

I have spent the past 36 hours feeling fluey – shivering, with a temperature over 39 and back ache that resembled the early stages of labour.

I think I have had a virus or something like what Miss Belle had over the bank holiday weekend. I feel so awful for her if this is how she felt and couldn’t tell us. Though she is now signing pain, which is coming in handy in the middle of the night.

It’s truly crappy when you are ill and a parent. There is no time for being ill when you have to look after a toddler. I woke up yesterday feeling achey so my in-laws came over at 10am as I had a pre arranged appointment. I was going to meet them and leave Miss Belle with them for a few hours but they came over and took her to the park instead. When I got back they made us lunch and my mother-in-law also did some ironing whilst I lay on the sofa feeling sorry for myself and Miss Belle napped.

They left at 3.30pm. The following 90 minutes were hell. I spent them feeling not only horrendous, but shouting and crying because my toddler keeps biting me. She has been biting me for months. She used to grab and scratch me, then we hit the biting ‘phase’. And yesterday, for the first time since leaving work, I yelled that I wished I was at work. Ironic, given my last post was about the mum guilt I feel when I’m not with her.

I have three bruises on my left forearm from Wednesday, where she bit me because I was trying to stop her climbing all over the sofas in a car showroom. Of course when she does this I say (shout) ‘no’ firmly and if I’m at home I try put her in her cot. In the car showroom I immediately strapped her in her pushchair which she screamed about for a few minutes, and then she got over it.

Yesterday, when I felt probably the most shit I have felt since becoming a mum?   My reaction was to sit on the floor and sob my heart out. She really hurt me. This in turn made her cry. But a few minutes later she did it again, this time nearly drawing blood on my hip. She made a small bite and then pulled the skin. Devil child.

Why the hell is she doing this? I wasn’t stopping her from doing anything. What could she have possibly been frustrated about? All I was doing was trying to rest on the sofa and encourage her to do her jigsaws. Was I not giving her enough attention? Was she just being silly because she was overtired? Is she biting because she’s still not walking and is frustrated about wanting to be on the move?

I didn’t have the energy to pick her up and carry her upstairs to her cot, so I said ‘no’ and dragged my heavy aching body from one sofa to the other. She followed me, climbing up onto the sofa, and came at me, mouth open, snarling, waiting to take another chunk. Has she got some serious psychological problem I need to investigate?

In the end tea time called so I put her in her highchair. It was all I could do to defrost a portion of salmon and microwave it with some leftover veg we had in the fridge. Daddy came home and walked in to see me sat in a blanket shivering and her refusing her veg. In the end I gave her crackers with cream cheese.

I felt more poorly after she went to bed so we ordered a pizza and I went to bed at 8.30pm. Overnight I felt worse – shivering and shaking at 2.30am. And she was up from 4.30am-6am, we think because of her teeth. Poor Daddy had to deal with her whilst I lay in bed sweating. The only way she’d go to sleep was if he lay by her cot on the floor.

Today I feel much better and don’t have a temperature anymore. It’s been a chocolate eating, tea drinking, PJ day and the house looks like a bomb has hit it. And now Daddy’s got it.

What a crap 36ish hours.

Send drugs, (more) chocolate and wine.

Oh and tips on how the hell to stop this biting ‘phase’ before I lose my mind.

The Pramshed



  1. 3rd September 2016 / 2:31 pm

    Oh wow – I read this with much empathy but I’m afraid I wouldnt even know where to start with advice. Sometimes it seems obvious that child behaviour is a result of poor discipline but I can absolutely see this isn’t the case here. I’d be frantically googling it and asking other mums. I hope you’re on the mend now and that she stops the biting soon. Feeling your pain 🙁 #fortheloveofBLOG

    • thisismenow
      3rd September 2016 / 2:37 pm

      I’m feeling quite a lot better now thanks, still not 100% though. No bites today so far – win! I am taking comfort in the fact I know others who have been bitten and come out the other side, or are going through the biting stage. I just wish it’d hurry up and stop soon! Thanks for reading.

  2. 4th September 2016 / 12:58 pm

    Oh you’ve had a right time of it. We’ve had a couple of illnesses strike our house over the last few months which have resulted in this. It’s so hard to get through the day when all you want to do is curl up and you’ve got a toddler running riot. I think I would have done the same thing as you with the biting.

    My daughter never really ‘did’ biting but has gone through phases similar to that. I’m afraid I don’t really have any advice other than just ride it out. It sounds like you’re doing the right thing by putting her in a ‘time out’ type situation when she does it. Will she take a teething ring or something to bite on?


    • thisismenow
      4th September 2016 / 7:09 pm

      Thanks, well we did have a Sophie Giraffe but have lost her, so I’m contemplating getting another or something similar, but she never really chewed on her! She more just squeezed it to make it squeak! Though she didn’t bite us then… So maybe it’s worth a shot! Thanks for reading X

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  4. 8th September 2016 / 9:15 pm

    Oh hun you have my sympathy. There is simply nothing worse than being ill and having a child to look after. It’s lovely that you have in laws who can come and help out. I’m not sure what to suggest about the biting, other than I hope it’s a phase. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

    • thisismenow
      9th September 2016 / 1:54 pm

      Thanks Claire – luckily since we have all recovered she hasn’t done it as much. So maybe it was because she felt I was ignoring her, or maybe it was her teeth. Who knows!? Thanks for reading 🙂

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