Instagram – who cares what I’m eating?

Instagram – who cares what I’m eating?

Some days I just can’t be arsed with Instagram. But it seems that if you want to be taken seriously as a parenting blogger, you need to get serious about Instagram.

I’ve read a couple of posts that encourage you to post photos x number of times a day at certain times of the day, with certain hashtags, to increase your followers and likes, and in turn increase visitors to your blog. I get that if parenting bloggers want to work with brands, having a good, engaged, following is important. They will only want to work with you if you have a certain amount of influence, after all. I know that some brands are looking to Instagram to find bloggers to work with. KidloLand contacted me about reviewing their app, because they found me on Instagram. But, the other night, as I thought “oh crap, I’ve not posted to Instagram today!” and I took a photo of my yoghurt, I thought what the hell have I become? This is bonkers! Who cares what yoghurt I’m eating?!

What have we become?

Some days I struggle with this social media driven generation I find myself in. Isn’t it pretty self indulgent to think that other people might care what we are doing all the time? Yes I would love more readers, but frankly my life is not that interesting to snap and publish in pretty little squares three times a day. Some days I don’t leave the house for Christ’s sake! Yes, I get that it’s also about capturing and sharing memories, but can’t some memories be just memories? Why have I fallen into this cycle of photographing and sharing everything with every Tom, Dick and Harry?

Anyone who does follow me on Instagram will notice I’ve changed my style of photos to only show Miss Belle side on or from the back now. That’s the way it’s going to be on the blog from now on too, apart from the odd one or two. It’s just a personal preference for me really. I came to the decision after reading an article someone I know posted online (ironic, I know) about how children also have a right to privacy. I know she’s only a toddler and in theory I suppose I ‘own’ her rights at the moment, but it made me think. It’s also made me think about what I write about on this blog too. I still don’t feel I have found my ‘niche’ or my ‘style’ yet. Maybe I’ll sack off all this moaning about nap times and just post recipes and pretend I’m good at crafts instead. But, I called this blog This Is Me Now because it’s about my life now and Miss Belle is obviously the centre of that, so of course I will write about her.

Maybe I just need to change my relationship with Instagram? Maybe I need to just appreciate that it can be about beautiful photography, and strive to have an account like some of the amazing ones I follow. Maybe I need to accept that to be a successful blogger I need to build my ‘brand’ on Instagram too. I started this blog because I wanted to write, but I’m quickly learning that I need to learn how to take and edit great photos too. Why is there always so much to learn, eh?

I wonder if my lack of love for Instagram is why I’m struggling to grow my followers there. Is my piddly little following because I’m not showing any face on cute photos of Miss Belle anymore? Or maybe it’s because I’m just shit at taking photos? Maybe it’s because my life isn’t exciting enough. Or maybe it’s because I don’t take selfies of me wearing fashionable clothes or take photos of a brightly coloured rainbow-esque wardrobe….or go to chic sea side resorts for coffee and croissants every day. I could go on.

Since becoming a blogger I have caved into the peer pressure of Instagram and even took a photo of some sodding autumn leaves the other week. Why? Well because everyone else was, and I’m a blogger now, so that’s what I should do isn’t it? I now realise that was stupid. It wasn’t very authentic – I don’t even like Autumn that much. And this is pointing out the bleeding obvious isn’t it, as we all know that really social media is just an allusion. But that’s what Instagram is to me. It’s just another place for people to post photos that make their lives look amazing. And yes some things make lovely photos, but a lot of the time, it’s just life. It’s just Autumn. Just like it is every year. Yes with pretty orange leaves, but it’s just Autumn! Why do we need to photograph it?!

I don’t want to go about my day every day wondering what I can photograph for Instagram. So I’m sorry, I’m just going to post when I want and what I want. Looking back I feel like a right hypocrite (but in my defence, that was an awesome yoghurt).

Screw what I should be doing, I’m just going to do what I want, and if that means I don’t post to Instagram every day, I’m OK with that.

How do you feel about Instagram?


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  1. 10th November 2016 / 1:13 pm

    Oh I’m a huge instagram fan! I find it for the most time very positive and in all fairness that looked like damn good yoghurt – power of social media means I’m tempted to buy a pot now – you need to contact yeo valley and ask for a £100 a IG post from now on! I do know what you’re saying though and I’ve been a little anxious about social media recently more than usual and am questioning it a little. I always ask my children’s permission before posting a photo of them without fail. Oh it’s a funny world this social media malarkey! #ablogginggoodtime xx

    • thisismenow
      10th November 2016 / 1:18 pm

      Hahah wow before blogging I would never have considered asking a brand for money for promoting them on social media! It is a really good yoghurt too… tastes like actual scone! Thanks for your comment, I think I’m in the minority sometimes with my thoughts on social media, but I do wonder if it’s just me who has these thoughts… we will see! xx

  2. Kellie - Hooray for Moms
    10th November 2016 / 2:15 pm

    See, all this talk about yogurt has me crazing some now too – the powers of IG work apparently! LOL I really like your thoughts on pictures of kids too, because it’s exactly how I feel. Of course I thin my kids are gorgeous and would love to show them off, but at the same time I need to respect their privacy, therefore I don’t show their faces either. Personal choice. Thanks for sharing your views!

    • thisismenow
      10th November 2016 / 7:13 pm

      Ah that’s good to know, I do think we are in the minority but it’s good to see there are others who feel the same. I now just need to go back through this blog and sort all my photos out… snore fest! Thanks for reading x

  3. 10th November 2016 / 2:19 pm

    I am so with you! I completely don’t understand IG. I read posts where people say they love looking through their IG feed and it cheers them up – so I try and do the same but I really really don’t get it! What am I looking at? There are some lovely photos, but I am a word gal – not a picture fan at all. Without words I just can’t concentrate for long. I am trying to use it effectively, but for now, I just post as and when! Do like your post of your yoghurt though 🙂 #ablogginggoodtime

    • thisismenow
      10th November 2016 / 7:11 pm

      Oh I’m so glad it’s not just me!!! Thanks for your comment, get on that yoghurt! x

  4. 10th November 2016 / 2:49 pm

    I love this post. I’ve only recently been drawn into Instagram and it’s certainly scarily addictive – or maybe I’m just nosey. Like you though I don’t post identifying pictures of the children (or indeed even of the grown ups on there), and what I’m always stunning about is the pictures that get the most amount of likes are often not the ones I love.

    • thisismenow
      10th November 2016 / 7:10 pm

      Yeh it’s weird isn’ t it? I’m pleased I’m not the only one who feels a bit like this and will definitely check out your feed to see your style! Thanks for reading and commenting x

  5. 10th November 2016 / 4:54 pm

    I love putting my photos on IG because I love taking photos and I didn’t realise that until I started blogging so I am grateful to blogging for that. however, I will fully admit that there is absolutely nothing instant about my IG it is all scheduled and planned with pretty quote patterns in too. Sometime I feel like I’ve sold out a bit though – where is my authenticity? Perhaps I need to through in some yoghurt pics too Great post! Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime

    • thisismenow
      10th November 2016 / 4:59 pm

      That’s the thing I never even knew some people scheduled IG until recently. And that’s I guess where I am learning its more about promoting a persons brand/blog than about instant moments. I suppose it depends what type of user you want to be. Personally I get fed up with all the quotes and stuff because there’s so much of it now. Argh maybe I will get sucked back in! Thanks for commenting and hosting x

  6. 10th November 2016 / 6:04 pm

    I decided to make my instagram very niche and its working okay for me at the moment. I dont take pictures of my food anymore.

    • thisismenow
      10th November 2016 / 6:24 pm

      Ah maybe I need to take a look! Thanks for commenting.

  7. 11th November 2016 / 3:27 am

    Great post. It’s so easy to get sucked into the black hole of social media isn’t it?! I think the thing is you just have to do what is right for you rather than what you are ‘supposed’ to do. Ultimately this will be what is right for your brand and your blog too. I think it is deciding how you want each social media channel to work for you. With IG some people post pictures of every little thing, daily or more, where as some people post less, but more curated pictures. I’m still working on IG and definitely should post more really, but I decided to use mine more as a showcase for my photography and reflective side, so lately have aimed for quality over quantity. If a brand finds me on IG I want it to be for the right reasons for me. That being said I need to be better at self promoting, so might not be the best approach, who knows?! x

    • thisismenow
      11th November 2016 / 4:56 pm

      Thanks for your very thoughtful comment, you are so right. I think I just need to do what’s right for me. Maybe if I get better at photography I can go down the more stylised curated route. x

  8. Sam
    11th November 2016 / 2:57 pm

    I know what you mean about Instagram. I’m still trying to get to grips with it but I am a rubbish photographer. I should probably take it more seriously but like you said, I just post what I want. I always feel guilty about posting pictures of my daughter, she’s only two so obviously she can’t give me permission yet. Maybe I shouldn’t post as many…

    • thisismenow
      11th November 2016 / 3:22 pm

      I think it’s a personal decision really, I post photos of my daughter on my personal Facebook page but Instagram is just open to everyone which made me think. I wonder if I’m limiting what I can get out of it though. Thanks for reading and your comment x

  9. Random Musings
    11th November 2016 / 4:28 pm

    I loved this. I really started to hate Instagram when I was forcing myself to post to it when I didn’t really want to. I’ve had a break from it. I do plan on starting to use it again, but as and when I want to, not to a schedule
    Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK

    • thisismenow
      11th November 2016 / 4:52 pm

      Ah thanks. I’m so glad it’s not just me who feels forced to do it! I do appreciate some lovely photos on there, I just find it all a bit much some days. Thanks for reading and hosting x

  10. 11th November 2016 / 8:56 pm

    Surely you should be doing things for enjoyment rather than Joe Bloggs told me to do it. #FamilyFun

  11. 11th November 2016 / 10:21 pm

    Yay Susie – carve out your own blogging/social media path (with autumn leaves or maybe not :-)). Well done for persevering with Instagram – I’m not even on it!!! #ablogginggoodtime x

    • thisismenow
      12th November 2016 / 5:10 pm

      Haha, thanks hun. I’m still not quite sure what I want to do but I’ll get there eventually! Thanks for reading x

  12. Chloe Weir
    12th November 2016 / 5:28 pm

    Love this post! #fortheloveofblog

  13. 13th November 2016 / 2:27 pm

    Personally I love Instagram but my love for it started before I started blogging. Blogging has made me come to terms with twitter more. There are a lot of successful bloggers who barely go any where near Instagram. I would say don’t try and be something you are not, if you want to find your niche and your voice it needs to be yours not someone elses. Your blog brand is you. I do love autumn and winter so I am happy taking pictures of it all, I almost never put selfies on my account because I don’t take them, however I follow a few accounts of mums who post them all the time. I know what you mean about those very eye catching accounts but if that just isn’t you it won’t work. If you want a following on Instagram you really do have to put a lot of work in, commenting and liking regularly. Don’t stress over it, there are other ways to promote your blog.

    • thisismenow
      13th November 2016 / 7:07 pm

      Thanks Kirsty for your advice and thoughtful comment. You are definitely right, I don’t want to be something I am not. Thanks for reading xx

  14. 13th November 2016 / 7:39 pm

    ha ha, you must have laughed at my tweet the other day when I said – oo more instagram tips! I suppose it was a tip though, a tip not to give two hoots about Instagram if you don’t want to! I get you on the insta thing, I am also only using it because I feel I should because I blog now! It took a while to get into it and I do sort of enjoy it now. I’m making patterns in my feed for my enjoyment though so maybe that is why I am enjoying it… THats not the bit people look at! Thanks for linking up to #familyfun

    • thisismenow
      13th November 2016 / 7:41 pm

      Hahah I did laugh when I saw that tweet yes! Thanks for your lovely comment. I just need to find peace with using it when and how I want I guess! Thanks for hosting #FamilyFun x

  15. 13th November 2016 / 8:47 pm

    haha that part about the sodding autumn leaves made me chuckle. I hear ya! IG is a weird one, I love it on the one hand but like you the expectation to post everyday irks me. I like to try and post nice pictures that I am proud of but well this just does not happen everyday so if I don’t have a photo I like to post then I won’t. Admittedly my following is a slow grower but I am ok with that. For me FB is the place I rant about my messy house and snot covered kids lol. However each to their own I say and like you say – you just keep doing what you want to do eh. Thanks for sharing at #familyfun xx

  16. 13th November 2016 / 11:35 pm

    I’m much like you. I try with Insta I really do but my days are that busy that I struggle to find the time it even remember to try and take a good couple of pictures. I’ve started doing the hashtag thing and that has made a huge difference but it’s like everything else BLOG related. So time consuming. I especially dislike the new algorithm in Insta – I used to check it daily but not so much anymore!
    I will continue to try and grow it but I’m not busting a gut to do it. #fortheloveofBLOG

  17. 14th November 2016 / 7:55 pm

    You can tell I love Instagram because when I saw your yoghurt pic, my first thought was ‘Ooh that sounds lovely!’ I do think you need to love Instagram to build a following – it’s all about how much you engage with others and if it’s not somewhere where you’re inspired to go then you’re not going to want to do that. IG is a good match for me and what my blog is about I think, so it’s an important following for me, but if it’s not doing anything for you then that’s fine too. But I know I definitely felt the pressure to post regularly when I started out, but now it just seems to come naturally (and if I miss a few days here and there, then it’s really not the end of the world!) Thanks for joining us again at #SharingtheBlogLove

  18. 14th November 2016 / 9:07 pm

    I have not joined Instagram. I can’t quite get my head round it. Your post did make me chuckle though.

  19. 15th November 2016 / 9:42 am

    Your comment about toddler privacy struck a chord with me. I too am an Instagram girl and post regularly about my man cubs. When I started blogging me and hubster agreed that I wouldn’t write or photograph anything that would embarrass our boys in years to come. I am comfortable with that remit but need to think again about their privacy.


    • thisismenow
      15th November 2016 / 9:53 am

      It’s hard isn’t it? I first wrote things to be honest and (attempting) to be funny about some mishaps and daily battles, but then I thought would that embarrass her when she’s older? Will I just delete the blog after so long? Or should I just tone down what I say, but then that could just be boring to my readers and at the end of the day it is a parenting blog! It’s a hard call. I’m still figuring it all out! Thanks for reading and commenting x

  20. 15th November 2016 / 10:24 pm

    I love Instagram its my happy place, I love scrolling through and seeing lots of lovely and different photos. I used to feel the pressure to post at set times and to find your theme. But, that just isn’t me. My theme is my girls, as they are why I blog to capture their childhood and Instagram is an extension to this. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

  21. 16th November 2016 / 2:02 pm

    I am actually in love with instagram at the moment but its basically like my digital photo album of my baby girl!
    Thanks for linking to #ablogginggoodtime

  22. 25th November 2016 / 1:06 pm

    I absolutely love Instagram and it’s kind of addictive. I post food and so many pictures of my daughter. Sometimes I wish my account looked more professional but my theme is pretty much my family, I don’t really use it to promote my blog though!

    • thisismenow
      25th November 2016 / 5:09 pm

      Yes that’s what mines like really!

  23. 26th November 2016 / 4:18 pm

    If I’m blogging, it’s my way or no way. If I don’t wanna write, I won’t. If I don’t wanna Instagram or I do (this changes daily) that’s the way the wind blows. I also choose not to photo my monster – he doesn’t need a virtual footprint at three . I guess I’m feeling a little Frank – I did it my way 🙂

    • thisismenow
      26th November 2016 / 4:22 pm

      Haha what an ace comment. I couldn’t agree more! Thanks for reading x

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