Hair Cut Fear

Hair Cut Fear

Yesterday I had my hair cut at a new hairdressers more local to me (and considerably cheaper) than my old hairdressers in Norwich. I had hair dresser guilt about leaving my old hair dresser (this is a real thing isn’t it?!) but I need to save money now I’m a stay at home mum. I hadn’t had it cut since April or May and it was in desperate need of styling and thinning out. Anyway, happy with the end result, as I went to pay, I hesitatingly booked Miss Belle in for a chop in a couple of weeks time.

No big deal you may think. But this will be Miss Belle’s first hair cut: take two.

Back in May we attempted to get her hair cut at a place recommended to me by a mum I’d met at a baby group. “Oh Lorriane is great with children” she said. So I called up and asked specifically for Lorraine. Although I was slightly apprehensive about whether she’d sit still, I didn’t expect any real problems.

Well, the hair cut was a hoot.

As soon as we walked in Miss Belle clung to me with a ‘WTF is this place?’ look on her face. I’m pretty sure she was wondering why I was taking her into this loud, dark, strangely decorated room with a load of strangers sat around with foil on their heads. I’d never taken her to my hairdressers so it was her first time in a salon. Hmm I thought, this might be a bit hard work.

Understatement of the century.

Feeling that Miss Belle probably wasn’t going to let go of me, we agreed I’d sit with her rather than her sit on the chair on her own. I sat down in front of the mirror. Lovely Lorraine was all cooey and smiles, but Miss Belle had taken an instant dislike to her. She began to cry. Lorraine kept talking all high pitched and smiley and introduced her ‘special’ child friendly gown with animals on. “Look, it’s a funny Penguin! Do you like Penguins?” she said, as she held it up. Nope, she really doesn’t I thought. It wasn’t going well.

Then Lorraine tried to put the gown around her. Miss Belle flipped out. She screamed at this stranger invading her personal space trying to attack her with a brightly coloured plastic sheet and crawled up me clinging on for dear life. The problem was I also had one of the plain black shiny gowns on. And she slipped. And whacked the side of her face on the sparkly black granite shelf below the mirror. Of course, she erupted… she screamed like I’ve never heard her. I knew she had really hurt herself because I’d never heard her cry like that before (and touch wood haven’t heard it since). By this point the other customers were all looking around. The other members of staff quite annoyingly looked over at me as if it was might fault. They looked puzzled and kept asking what on earth was wrong. We explained she hit her head.

I tried to calm her down and take her away from the other customers and staff feeling guilty that my child was causing so much noise. I went out the back door that was open into a little courtyard but she was having none of it. She was going mental. She was traumatised. And I was too. When I couldn’t console her, Lorraine and I agreed it was time to go and we’d try it another time. Yeah, right, I thought. I don’t think we’ll be coming here again. I knew it wasn’t her fault, but I didn’t like the way the other staff looked at me like they’d never seen a baby cry for hitting their heads before. Then the situation took hold of me and I couldn’t contain myself. My poor baby had really hurt herself. As I started to well up Lorraine said “oh please don’t be upset” and I rushed out of the door crying into my babba.

By the time we’d driven the 5 minutes home a lovely greeny purple bruise had appeared right by her eye. In a way she was lucky it wasn’t worse.

Ah those lovely first hair cut memories, where your little one is left with a shiner.

So, perhaps unsurprisingly, I now have Hair Cut Fear.

Since May I’ve had to tentatively snip her fringe a couple of times, but the poor girl looks such a scruff pot and constantly has her fringe in her eyes, so I need to get over the Fear.

Miss Belle is booked in for the week after next.

Have any of you got any tips or experiences of how I can make her first hair cut: take two, any less traumatic?


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  1. Kirsty - Motherhoodery
    23rd September 2016 / 3:04 pm

    Oh my gosh what a nightmare! I thought our first hair cut was bad enough, but we didn’t have the shiner to boot. Bless her. It really annoys me when people look at babies crying. Funny how quick they forget their children crying!! Don’t blame you getting upset, I’d be the same. x

    • thisismenow
      23rd September 2016 / 3:48 pm

      Thanks Kirsty, it was a bit stressful to say the least! Praying all goes better next time and we don’t get the stares!! Xx

  2. 24th September 2016 / 10:24 am

    Oh lord what a disaster – you poor things. I don’t really have any advice – I took my two to kiddy Kutz in mothercare and they have tv screens which is a good distraction. Or you could move on from the fringe and try and give it a bash yourself ?? #fortheloveofblog

    • thisismenow
      24th September 2016 / 10:56 am

      Haha I just don’t feel I have the expertise! I think distraction is the key.. I’m hoping she will like the new place better. I’m going to go extra early so she has a bit more time to adjust to the surroundings!

  3. 26th September 2016 / 12:37 pm

    Good luck! My daughter hasn’t had her first haircut yet, but she’s starting to need one because her hair is falling in her eyes. I can’t imagine she’s going to take to it very well though – let us know how you get on and if you have any tips post haircut #2!

    • thisismenow
      26th September 2016 / 12:38 pm

      Thanks – I will probably do an update, depending on how it goes! xx

  4. 26th September 2016 / 1:52 pm

    My son has autism and we have never even attempted going to a salon. I cut his hair at home and that was pretty traumatic for the first 9 years. This year I discovered Calming Clippers and love, love, love them! Massive difference to my boy.

    • thisismenow
      26th September 2016 / 2:43 pm

      Oh wow, what an ace mum to power through the trauma of doing that! Thanks for reading, hopefully Miss Belle will be OK next time, if not I’ll be coming back to you for some advice!! xx

  5. Sam at Mouse Moo Me Too
    26th September 2016 / 2:14 pm

    I’ve started cutting my toddlers hair at home but the effect is less than impressive – we’ve found a great kiddy salon but the whole experience costs £12 which my eyes kind of water at. Good luck with the next attempt! X

    • thisismenow
      26th September 2016 / 2:44 pm

      Haha yes £12 is a bit excessive for a toddler! Miss Belle’s should be £5 which is more acceptable I think! If this time doesn’t work I’ll get in touch for some tips!! xx

  6. 26th September 2016 / 2:30 pm

    Oh goodness what a story! I’m so sorry your little one didn’t have a good time at the salon, and I do think it was wrong for the people there to look at you the way they did. Hopefully next time will be better.
    All I’d say is perhaps try to talk to her about the salon, explain that it’s nice to have a hair cut (with your brave face on of course – hiding the Fear!). She could take her favourite cuddly toy for support or you could organise a treat afterwards.
    Hope the next one goes okay for you. xx

    • thisismenow
      26th September 2016 / 2:46 pm

      Thanks, that’s a good idea actually. I will give that a try. She loves to brush my hair so maybe before I’ll talk to her about it when she does that. Thanks for reading x

  7. 26th September 2016 / 10:52 pm

    Ah the first hair cut. My eldest has had her hair cut only by her grandmother and myself. She’s scared of hair dryers as they are so loud and noisy. Personally if I were to have a hair dresser I’d invite them to the house. #tribalchat

  8. 27th September 2016 / 12:42 pm

    Oh no!! She must have been scared poor little girlie! But they can be such hard work!

  9. 28th September 2016 / 3:25 pm

    Isn’t it funny how kids just do take an instant dislike to some people for no apparent reason?! Sophie is just the same and it’s always with the people you need them to like! Hopefully next time will go better. Thanks for joining us on #fortheloveofBLOG

    • thisismenow
      28th September 2016 / 3:42 pm

      Yes it’s funny! She also dislikes old men though, which I’m fine with! Haha! xx

  10. Topfivemum
    28th September 2016 / 8:09 pm

    Oh no, I really feel for you both. Everyone makes out the first haircut to be a big milestone but it’s just another cause of stress and worry with toddlers. My daughter still has hardly any hair at age 2 so we only had a little snip at the back first time around. We’d practised all morning how to say ‘morning Lola’ before going but when got there she gave the worst killer look which sounds similar to your daughter’s. My daughter also jumped out the chair and I was lucky not to put my neck out trying to catch her (as I have done before!) She was more happy sweeping up the floor afterwards than having her hair cut! The staff were so friendly and obliging though – you do right to find somewhere a bit more empathetic. Good luck next time lovely. Or a bowl cut never is that bad 🙂 #twinklytuesday

    • thisismenow
      29th September 2016 / 7:32 am

      Hahah very true. I’m kind of glad to hear it wasn’t easy for you too though glad you and your daughter weren’t hurt! I’ll let you know how it goes, Eeek! xx

  11. 28th September 2016 / 8:41 pm

    Snacks and distraction! Also, she’ll pick up on it if you’re anxious. Maybe you could sit in the chair first and have a tiny bit trimmed and she could watch. Or maybe get her to pick a picture of a haircut she likes in a magazine before you go? The one near us has car chairs and Peppa in repeat so maybe see if they have kiddy places like that near you. Good luck! Thanks for linking up with the #bigpinklink

    • thisismenow
      29th September 2016 / 7:28 am

      Another great idea, thanks. I’ll suggest that to the hairdresser and sit and get my hair brushed first! Xx

  12. 28th September 2016 / 9:06 pm

    I have found that getting a pair of fake plastic scissors that DONT cut and playing pretend hairdressers at home helps and getting your hair dryer out and playing with it with her so she’s used to the noise! Just takes time
    Thanks for linking to #ablogginggoodtime

    • thisismenow
      29th September 2016 / 7:27 am

      Oh thanks, that’s a great tip! Yeh I have the hair dryer on so she’s starting to get used to it x

  13. Karen
    30th September 2017 / 3:54 pm

    Sounds like a really traumatic experience. It’s so odd when people look at parents like it’s their fault if their child gets upset-how quickly they seem to forget how challenging parenting can be! I always cut their hair myself, I bought myself some clippers and learnt how to do my husband’s to save time and money years ago and so carried on my amateur cutting crusade with the little ones, it actually seems to have worked out okay so far (bribery of their favourite tv programme has helped!)

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