I’m no longer just a Mummy, I am a blogger

I am no longer just a Mummy. I am a blogger. There, I said it.

If you’re not a close friend, or a blogger, you may well laugh and roll your eyes at that statement.

It’s been six months since my first post about becoming a SAHM, so I thought I’d write a ‘what I’ve learned in six months of blogging’ type of post. But when I was thinking about it, rather than listing all the technical terms and phrases I have learned, I thought about what blogging has given me. It’s given me so much more than some new found technical skills. Blogging has given me a sense of self again.

When you have a baby you can totally lose who you are. I lost a lot of confidence at work. I wouldn’t say I’m not a confident mum (although others may disagree – I do worry a lot), but when I went back to work I had lost the confidence in me. After 13 months of maternity leave I had forgotten who the pre-baby me was.

During the last six months my blog has given me exactly what I hoped it would. It’s made my brain tick and at times it has made my brain well and truly hurt! Ever tried setting up an online completion, an email newsletter, an RSS feed? If it’s new to you, it takes time. I can’t tell you how as a Stay At Home Mum sometimes all you think about is whether two slices of cucumber in a day is enough veg, why your toddler isn’t walking yet, and whether you’re letting your little one watch too much Peppa Pig. This blog has challenged me. Not like when I was at work in a “oh crap how do we spin this almighty cock up?” kind of way. But in a new way.

Yes I have learnt a wealth of things about website creation, website hosting, domains, SEO, readability,  passive voice (the bane of my life!), blog promotion, social media, scheduling and the thing every blogger stresses about, the almighty DA. These are things I didn’t even know about before I became a blogger.

Blogging has also made me look at life in a different way. Now when I’m going about my daily business I often hear or observe things and instantly want to write about it. I read thought provoking articles that ignite emotion in me, and I want to add my voice to the mix. It’s also making me more creative. I’m not the best writer in the world and I don’t think I ever will be. But I trained as a journalist, I did English literature at school, and I like to write. Blogging has given me time to use my skills again.

It’s also made me incredibly organised. I completely underestimated how time-consuming blogging would be. There is a whole blogging community out there and you need to engage with them and build up friendships and readers. This takes time, but with some super duper bloggers sharing their tips and tricks, I have learnt how to save time online.  Big thanks to Becky at Cuddle Fairy, Fi at A Mum Track Mind and the wonderful Aby at You Baby Me Mummy for all your help and advice. I have done a couple of free courses with Aby and they have been amazing in helping me work harder and smarter on my blog.

Over the last six months I’ve had my fair share of self-doubt. The blogging world sucks you in. If you’re competitive like me, you want to do your best as quickly as possible. You compare yourself to other bloggers who started at a similar time as you. When their stats are better than yours, you feel like a failure and giving up. But I will only commit so many hours in a day to writing this blog, editing photos and promoting it on social media. The rest of my time is family time and looking after Miss Belle. No I don’t have tens of thousands of followers on social media, I don’t have tens of thousands of readers every month. I have more and more every month though, and you know what, that’s something.

So the last six months of 2016 have been life changing really. I became a SAHM, I ditched the day job and I got a new hobby. A hobby that I love. Yes I’m a Mummy first, but now I am proud to call myself a blogger too.

Here’s to 2017 and more exciting times to come. Happy New Year everyone!

 

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44 Comments

  1. 28th December 2016 / 8:53 am

    I’m so glad blogging has given you all this. I totally get what you mean about enjoying the challenge and learning new things, as I feel the same.

    I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you and your blog over the last few months. Good luck for 2017!

    • thisismenow
      28th December 2016 / 9:10 am

      Thanks so much Naomi – likewise. Ok hopping you’ll help me get even mor organised next year! X

  2. 28th December 2016 / 11:02 am

    I know just what you mean, I love blogging for me. I couldn’t imagine what it would be like not to blog now! Ito also made me capture our lives through pictures, which I’m not sure I would do if it wasn’t for my blog.
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  3. 28th December 2016 / 4:59 pm

    What a lovely post and one that very much resonates with me – blogging most definitely gives back a sense of self! You have done so much in 6 months…..I have no idea about passive voice and this DA thing still totally confused a me but I guess because I’m not self-hosted I don’t really need to worry about it?! Well done on a fab first 6 months of blogging – here’s to the next 6 months and beyond….. Xx

  4. 28th December 2016 / 4:59 pm

    This is a very sincere post and one that very much resonates with me – blogging most definitely gives back a sense of self! You have done so much in 6 months…..I have no idea about passive voice and this DA thing still totally confused a me but I guess because I’m not self-hosted I don’t really need to worry about it?! Well done on a fab first 6 months of blogging – here’s to the next 6 months and beyond….. Xx

  5. 5th January 2017 / 8:51 am

    aww amazing! blogging really does give you such a role and a love of what you do doesn’t it? It sounds like you’ve had an amazing start with all your tech speak – I am so oblivious to all of that that I’m not sure I can call myself a blogger yet! I may have to make that on of my 2017 goals! Well done though on your six months! #ablogginggoodtime
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    • thisismenow
      5th January 2017 / 8:59 am

      Thanks very much. I can’t believe you don’t think of yourself as a blog yet, you’re one of the super bloggers to me! X

  6. 5th January 2017 / 9:29 am

    Totally relate to this! Before my baby was born I was a teacher. That was who I was. Once she was born I no longer felt I could give the profession what it needed. I became a sahm. I’ve since got a part time evening job which gives me a little me time again but blogging is what’s given me a little of my old self again!

    I hope you had a lovely Christmas!

  7. 5th January 2017 / 10:22 am

    You are so right! Blogging is something I started almost 2 years ago. I was working part-time up until June 2016 (I have 3 children) I worked for local newspapers. I started my blog to keep family up to date with wedding plans and also wrote tutorials – it then became my passion and I started making it more family orientated. I was made redundant 6 months ago and I am now trying hard to work on my blog, it is time consuming, I don’t think people realise quite how much! But I love it. Sarah #ablogginggoodtime
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    • thisismenow
      5th January 2017 / 11:25 am

      It is so time consuming yes! So much more than I thought it would be. Good luck with your blog this year and thanks for reading x

  8. 5th January 2017 / 12:38 pm

    Hooray! Blogging is a great outlet for me too, so glad you are enjoying it. Aby’s fantastic isn’t she – so many helpful resources on one blog, clever lady. Happy new year and good luck with your blog for 2017! #ablogginggoodtime
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    • thisismenow
      5th January 2017 / 12:41 pm

      Thanks very much, good luck with your blog too x

  9. 5th January 2017 / 1:09 pm

    Great post. Self doubt is commonplace with writing and blogging, I get it all the time and I only do it as a hobby not for a job or anything. #ablogginggoodtime

    • thisismenow
      6th January 2017 / 7:48 pm

      It really is isn’t it. I know it’s not just me, but it still makes me worry. Thanks for stopping by x

  10. 5th January 2017 / 2:28 pm

    Hurray! I loved reading this! It’s like it could be me writing it 🙂 I’m so glad that you’re enjoying blogging. I’m a SAHM and I’ve been blogging 8mths. Like you, I love the opportunity to write and the fact that it exercises my brain a little bit.

    I’m also dreadful at comparing myself to other people who started at the same time as me, but I’ve set myself time and commitment limits and so I can’t expect to be as far on as other people. My hubby says that blogging is like weight-lifting – weight-lifters are separated into different weight categories before they lift (like different bloggers having different time constraints and other responsibilities) but they’re all champion boxers because they lift as much as they can. I don’t think I explained that very well, but I hope you go it! Congratulations on your first 6 months! #SharingTheBlogLove
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    • thisismenow
      5th January 2017 / 6:00 pm

      Ah what a great analogy I will definitely Think like that in future! Thanks so much for your lovely comment, I really appreciate it xx

  11. Rochelle
    5th January 2017 / 11:48 pm

    I love this!!!! you are such a great writer, and kept me wanting to read more. I will definitely be following your journey. I 100% could relate to everything you was saying, I’m new to blogging too, and sometimes I just feel I’m out of my depth.

    • thisismenow
      6th January 2017 / 8:25 am

      Oh thanks so much Rochelle, that’s so kind. I totally feel out of my depth all the time! So don’t worry about that! Just do what you can, when you can, and enjoy it. Xx

  12. 6th January 2017 / 8:31 am

    I am so pleased that you are enjoying blogging and that it has provided you with a creative outlet too. I always say that for me blogging is like breathing out. I wish you continued success in 2017 and wanted to also Thank you for taking part in #ablogginggoodtime and for all your wonderful comments. Keep up the great work! It’s hard to see you are making an impact in this big old world of blogging but you are!!!
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    • thisismenow
      6th January 2017 / 9:15 am

      Ah thanks so much Catie, I have loved this linky and have found some great blogs through it. All the best for 2017 to you too xx

  13. 6th January 2017 / 12:40 pm

    Congratulations on everything you’ve achieved! Blogging is such an amazing tool for finding your voice, for forcing you to take on new challenges, and for giving you a focus. I think it’s inevitable that in a community like blogging that you’ll compare yourself to others, but I think the key is to recognise that they’re on different paths and to embrace the positives of your own journey. I’m definitely a slow climbing blogger compared to lots of people who started out at the same time as me, and I’m ok with that! Well done on your first 6 months of blogging – I’m looking forward to your 2017! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  14. 7th January 2017 / 9:17 pm

    Well done on 6 months of blogging! It definitely does suck you in and there is so much more to it than people think. It’s hard not to compare yourself to others, but remember don’t compare your beginning to someone else middle. There is a place for everyone in the blogging community and follow your own path. I look forward to what 2017 will bring you. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x
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    • thisismenow
      7th January 2017 / 9:38 pm

      Thanks Laura I shall try remember that x

  15. 7th January 2017 / 11:14 pm

    Love this. I have only been blogging for a short time so I never know whether or not I can call myself a blogger yet… I love blogging but I really need to focus on it more and start taking notice of stats etc.
    #fortheloveofBLOG

    • thisismenow
      8th January 2017 / 8:28 am

      Haha do look at them! Stats aren’t the be all and end all, I am slowly learning this! Thanks for reading x

  16. 8th January 2017 / 5:43 pm

    It sounds like you’ve got so much out of blogging which is great, and I love how you say you’ll only commit so much time to it and the rest is family time, so important to have a balance. Happy new year! #fortheloveofBLOG

  17. 9th January 2017 / 7:39 am

    Ah good for you. I really enjoyed reading this post this morning, and I can resonate with so many things that you are saying. Blogging is fantastic and gave me a sense of purpose when I’m on maternity leave, which I’m now continually juggling with work. I’m really happy that you are enjoying blogging, and finding your voice. I love it when a post idea comes to you during the middle of something completely random. Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

  18. 11th January 2017 / 12:06 am

    Blogging is a hugely rewarding hobby. If it wasn’t, people wouldn’t stick at it and make it a success. Good luck with yours #sharingthebloglove

  19. 12th January 2017 / 8:44 am

    I feel like this a lot. Especially when people have achieved so much so quickly. It’s really hard to not compare yourself isn’t it. But blogging is amazing and you “meet” some amazing people!

    #SharingTheBlogLove

  20. 12th January 2017 / 12:32 pm

    Great post, I’m a SAHM too, and it’s been so therapeutic to have a creative outlet, and something to show for it. It’s got my brain ticking too! #SharingtheblogLove

    • thisismenow
      12th January 2017 / 12:47 pm

      It’s so challenging some days, that’s why I love it! Thanks for reading xx

  21. 12th January 2017 / 2:52 pm

    Ah this is fab. You’re right about that sense of identity through motherhood – who am I now? A new me. It’s so fab that you’ve got this amazing new outlet. #sharingthebloglove

  22. 12th January 2017 / 6:01 pm

    I love this post. As a working mummy my blog really took a hit when I went back to work in September. With three little monkeys to manage, compressed work hours and a frustrated brain struggling to write, I thought about giving it up. In the end (despite the passive voice, I hate that too) I couldn’t do it. It turns out I love it too much. It also makes me so much better. I almost feel more proud getting a well written post up against the odds some times. It could all be better and there is never enough time to do all my admin but I’m staying put for now. Thanks for some additional motivation #sharingthebloglove x

    • thisismenow
      12th January 2017 / 8:23 pm

      Ah I know there really aren’t enough hours – you could blog for 24 hours every day if you don’t work or sleep! I think it’s nice you’ve still got something for you – it’s hard enough being a parent, it’s nice to have something that makes you feel good every now and again. Thanks for reading 🙂 x

  23. 12th January 2017 / 9:25 pm

    I can totally relate to this! I am so glad the blogging is giving you what you need right now!
    #sharingthebloglove

  24. 12th January 2017 / 11:07 pm

    So lovely to read this. Sounds like these past 6 months have been very positive overall for you and your blog. I started 4 months ago so I love reading things like this. There’s so much to learn and yes, there’s lots of self-doubt but I think it’s great that we are being creative and enjoying the process. Onwards and upwards for 2017! 🙂 #sharingthebloglove

  25. 15th January 2017 / 11:28 am

    I totally get this. Utterly and completely. I think most of us ‘mum bloggers’ will. Brilliant post. #sharingthebloglove
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    • thisismenow
      15th January 2017 / 11:49 am

      Thanks so much Jaki x

    • thisismenow
      10th March 2017 / 9:05 am

      Ah thanks Jo, yes it’s given me so much, I can’t imagine not doing it now x

  26. 10th April 2017 / 10:07 pm

    Well this was an inspiring read 🙂 I just started a couple months ago and I love it. I get to chat with other parents and agree with a lot of the points you’ve made. My days are more fulfilling now, in a new way, and I love it. Working on potty training right now, though, so not putting up as many posts a week as I’d like…but family first
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